You searched for: “either or
either ... or, neither ... nor
either ... or (EE thuhr...OR, IGH ther...OR) (conjunction)
A choice between only two alternatives: The decision was to travel either by bus or by train.
neither ... nor (NEE thuhr...NOR, NIGH thuhr...NOR) (conjunction)
A choice between two or more alternatives, suggesting the negative: On the multiple choice questionnaire, neither #1 nor #2 was the correct answer.

Going out for dinner can be stressful; either we go to an inexpensive place where the food is good or we go to a prestigious place where the food is not so good; or maybe we should go somewhere else altogether different.

Neither the second choice nor the third choice was appealing, so we decided to eat at home instead.